Uticopa Blog

There are times when many of us can feel particularly worthless, depressed, discouraged, sad and defeated.  Life is hard.
 
The way to deal with it is to tell yourself how special and important you are.
Each of us is unique:  some of our mental components are handed down to us by our genetic ancestors, others by what we have experienced in our own lifetime. Do you have any idea of some of the gifts you have within you? My guess is probably not or you wouldn't be feeling the way you are feeling. Indeed, when you are feeling better, who better than you could offer to assist others?  You've been through the mill and therefore know exactly what others may be experiencing.

There are many instances in literature and history that show how individual vulnerability can turn to amazing, even heroic, feats in overcoming disaster. Think of  Viktor Frankl who was able to find it even in the Nazi concentration camps. You can read his book "Man's Search for Meaning."

Think of the great love poets. To my mind, how could they have experienced so much intense emotions had they not experienced so much emotional pain? In fact many poems express this pain and many of the great poets themselves had mental health disorders.

But, in today's society so much of how we value ourselves is based on current media obsessions.  Articles about losing weight or adverts about counteracting that ‘bloated' feeling all seem to point the finger at women.  Don't men experience these problems? 

Of course, we all inherit our body's individual genetic makeup, with its varying ability to metabolise fats, so must learn how our own body deals with food, and adjust our habits accordingly.

Back in the 1950s women complained that they were too thin, striving for that impossible Diana Dors or Jane Mansfield hourglass figure. Voluptuous curves and cinched-in waists were all the rage back then, and thin women cried themselves to sleep at the impossibility of achieving their own shapely curves.

But in 2009, that ideal of perfection has changed alarmingly. We now know that overeating can have many different causes but mainly revolves around self-respect.  If you find yourself identifying with this problem, one of the most constructive things to do would be to join a support group - you can get information via the Uticopa.com site. This would help you to unearth the underlying causes for your lack of self-respect and so begin to change your whole outlook on life.

Whatever the causes of your low self-esteem, a simple thing you can do is to visualise an early photo of yourself, preferably one where you are smiling and looking up at the camera. Then, mentally pop that tiny image into an imaginary top pocket in your blouse or jacket and regularly smile down at yourself and forgive yourself.

Once that simple act of forgiveness has taken place, feelings of depression and worthlessness will simply disappear.  It's about how you feel inside that matters.

Just taking these few simple steps will give an enormous benefit. Your self-esteem will rise and you'll at last feel contented inside.  See that little image of yourself in your top pocket?  He or she is grinning broadly back at you. 

Low self-esteem can be conquered. At last!