Posted by: Uticopa in Aspergers on
Feb 01, 2009
Alan, 36, is a software programmer who met and fell in love with his girlfriend Lisa via an internet matchmaking site. They emailed for a few months before meeting face to face on their first date. At first Lisa was surprised that he didn't seem that interested and, at the end of the night, he kissed her on the cheek and asked to see her again. However, the more she saw of him, the more she relished his offbeat, quirky company. Also, she really appreciated his old-fashioned manner of holding doors open for her and happily carrying her parcels for her when they were out shopping.
It seemed like a match made in heaven. Alan was always courteous, polite and attentive and Lisa was a happy-go-lucky kind of girl, adoring and loving. However, it soon became apparent that something was not quite right. He didn't seem to care what anyone else thought of him. When he did take an interest in something, it would border on the obsessive.
It was after five months of their relationship that Lisa's feelings had deepened, but that was when everything started falling apart. As she craved more from their relationship, Alan seemed less and less willing or able to provide it. In turn, this made Lisa become more and more clingy and oversensitive as Alan showed all the feelings of disinterest. They started to argue, finally agreeing to split up. But, although in some ways Lisa was relieved at having to cope with his sometimes incomprehensibly insensitive behaviour, she missed him terribly.
